There are many organizations
here on Oahu that have been put in place to help these individuals to get
on their feet and to turn their lives around. I have been blessed to be
involved in one of these. This time is especially blessed for me because
I am in recovery myself.
Women’s Way is a drug and
alcohol treatment center where women come in with their children to learn
how to be successful mothers as well as learning how to have a successful
recovery. The last six months I have been volunteering there has been such
an adventure! I have connected with, and developed great friendships with
the women. One of the women who fascinate me the most would definitely
be Rosalind, also known as Roz.
“My name is Rosalind, not Ronalind.
Don’t ever call me that again!” where the intimidating words that flew
out of Rosalind’s mouth when I first met her. I had apparently said her
name wrong. (I would advise to never do that!) I immediately was scared
of her, and took a mental note to stay away from her from then on out.
As much as I tried to steer clear of Roz, I could not. Women’s Way is
not a very big facility. Amazingly, the more I talked to her, the less
intimidating she was, and the more I looked forward to our next talks!
It was one of our first conversations
together when Roz told me that her daughter’s name that she was still
pregnant with at that time was going to be Alexis Irie Rose. My first thoughts
where about how she must be joking with me and someone just told her to
tell me that! When I found out that she was not messing with me but telling
me the truth, I was so shocked! Her daughter and I have the same first
and middle name! It was at that point when I knew God had placed both of
us in each other’s paths for a very specific reason.
Through many visits to Women’s
Way Roz has opened up so much to me. Piece by piece she has revealed her
story to me. And what a miraculous story it is! Roz is currently 25 years
old. She was actually 22 when she started doing crystal meth, also known
as Ice. Her addiction didn’t take very long to take over her life; it
became so unmanageable she became homeless. Not only that, but she soon
found herself pregnant and still unable to stop. She was seven months pregnant
when she decided to admit herself to the treatment center so she could
clean up her life, and offer a better life for her baby girl.
Roz’s time at Women’s Way has
not been the easiest. And although I am considered staff, and Rosalind
a client, it has never gotten in between us. She, like myself, tends to
be a very crafty person. So when things became too much for her we would
spend some time scrapbooking together where she would let off some steam
and relax. Roz tends to be a bit of a trouble maker, with a lot of attitude.
( hmm.. We definitely don’t have that in common ;) ).. She actually fell
into temptation a few months ago and relapsed. What a mess that was! She
almost ended up leaving. I am so glad everything got resolved and she ended
up staying. I knew the Lord was not done with her yet!
While in treatment, Roz
has also experienced heartbreak. Chad, who is the father of Alexis, (and
who was also in jail) had promised a future of true paradise, a paradise
where the three of them would have a stable life together, and where they
could be a real family. He ended up breaking that promise when he was released
from jail as he quickly fell into old illegal habits and was sent right
back in. He also started being unfaithful to Rosalind which caused the
ending of their relationship. She has showed extreme strength by going
to court against him and gaining full custody of Alexis. Praise the Lord
for that outcome!
‘Second wind’ is a running term
used when a person gets renewed energy after they were at a point of exhaustion.
When I think of Rosalind’s situation this term is the first thing that
comes to mind. Although she still gets in trouble now and then for her
mischief, ever since her relapse I have seen her determined to better her
and her daughter’s life. Her relapse has also opened up doors for us to
talk about Christ, as well as her experience with the church. The fact
that she is still trying to seek God after all that has happened to her.
Rosalind’s adventures have caused
her to think about what is important: first and foremost, her relationship
with Christ, and then providing a stable future for her little girl, who
is about 7 months old now. And such a ray of sunshine! (BTW! I saw Alexis
crawl for the first time today!). As of today Roz only has about a month
left in the program. After her graduation is complete she will be headed
to The Philippians, where her family will be her support team, and also
will help her get a place of her own!
This truly remarkable story of
Rosalind’s life has taught me to put the past behind. How simple and easy
life is when we actually do that! I am very blessed the Lord placed this
amazing woman into my life! Although I have no idea what the future has
in store for Rosalind, (or myself actually) I do know as long as she is
trusting in the God there is nothing she can’t do! If after our time on
this island is up and I don’t see her again in this life, I know I will
be seeing her someday in paradise.